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Collaborative Divorce A New and Better Way
Your marriage may end in divorce but doesn’t have to end in a courtroom battle.
Collaborative law is a legal process that helps couples avoid the expensive and uncertain outcome of a court battle. Collaborative Divorce enables the professionals to help the parties craft a settlement that best meets their individual needs as well as the needs of their children.
Divorces are as varied and complex as the individuals involved. Temperament, family and financial obligations and the division of assets can create overwhelming stress, fear and anxiety.
It does not have to be this way.
Non-adversarial in nature, the new Collaborative Law approach is designed to minimize conflict. The New Jersey Collaborative Law Group brings a skilled, highly trained, interdisciplinary team of lawyers, mental health/divorce coach and financial advisors to the process.
This interdisciplinary disciplinary approach can continue to provide your family a framework to carry into the future.
The Collaborative Divorce process places an emphasis on the emotional needs of the divorcing parties and their children. The parents work together as a family unit even though they are divorced.
Collaboration, communication, cooperation
The New Jersey Collaborative Law Group emphasizes communication and cooperation rather than conflict.
The difference between Collaborative Divorce and traditional divorce is profound. The benefits are clear in terms of reaching a mutually agreed upon resolution and maintaining ongoing positive relationships within the family.
Settlements can be quicker and less costly than traditional divorces. They are more fair since the stated goal of Collaborative Divorce is making sure each party has a say in what they need. Children’s emotional needs are better assessed and taken into account during the process and are more likely to be met.
A significant outcome of the new Collaborative Law process is that it provides a cooperative template for future negotiations should issues arise.
family law practice for New Jersey
The New Jersey Collaborative Law Group
(NJCLG) offers an effective, humane alternative to litigation or mediation,
as well as the costly fees associated with trial law and the courtroom.
We are a group of collaboratively trained attorneys, financial professionals and licensed mental health specialists.. Should your circumstances
require them, appraisers, mortgage consultants, and vocational experts
will contribute their skills to ensuring that there is a rewarding
life after divorce – for you, your spouse, and your family.
While we specialize in divorce,
The New Jersey Collaborative Law Group is competent in every
field of family law. Prenuptial and non-marital cohabitation agreements,
domestic partnerships, guardianships, paternity, child custody and
support issues – all can be efficiently resolved by a NJCLG
team, to the satisfaction of all parties. Our collaborative
law practice serves New Jersey’s Essex, Hunterdon, Morris, Passaic, Somerset, Sussex, Union and Warren counties. If you are
facing divorce or any other family law matter, we encourage you
to contact a NJCLG professional.
Most Recent Blog
Managing Transference & Countertransference in Divorce
By Susan J. Friedman, LCSW, DVS, BCD
In my work as a collaboratively trained, neutral divorce coach participating on a team consisting of attorneys, financial professionals and clients, I have come to greatly appreciate the critical importance of identifying and understanding the impact of transference and countertransference among the team members. Clients and professionals are all coequal members of the team and as such will be referenced as “team member”.
In the context of a therapeutic relationship, transference, as defined in the Merriam-Webster dictionary, is “the redirection of feelings and desires and especially of those unconsciously retained from childhood toward a new object, specifically a therapist”. In other words, it is the unconscious displacement of feelings and attitudes from one person to another, especially the reassignment of dynamics from formatively significant figure such as parents, guardians to contemporary relations, such as love interests, therapists.
Transference can be manifested in many forms towards a therapist including rage, hatred, mistrust, “parentification”, extreme dependence, and/ or placing the therapist on a pedestal. Sigmund Freud encountered transference in his therapy with clients and at first thought it was a hindrance to successful treatment. However, he came to learn that the analysis of the transference was exactly the work that needed to be done. [The focus in psychodynamic psychotherapy is, in large part, the therapist and client recognizing the transference relationship and exploring the meaning of the relationship.]
Countertransference, a concept also originally developed by Sigmund Freud, is defined by Merriam-Webster dictionary, … Read the rest